Saturday, April 16, 2016

CHRISTMAS...we had to learn somethings the hard way. . .

        
When our children were small on Christmas Morning, they'd come in to wake us up (as if we were asleep and as if we didn't know they had already peeked to see what Santa had brought) and then run into the family room and start digging into their Christmas.  With so many throwing their wrappings into the fireplace we had to start a few new Allen Family Traditions on the fly and in a hurry.  First from that Christmas forward they had to all line up according to age (tallest at the back) out in the hallway by our bedroom so that their Daddy and I could go out into the family room, set up our camera equipment, light the tree and start a fire (our first fireplace, other than the cabin, was in our home on 33rd Place).  Well the fire in the fire place went away after that Christmas because having so many throw their wrappings into the fireplace made the fire go nearly out of control and bellow out into the family room. (Thus a big black plastic bag was furnished for them to stuff their wrapping paper into.) Then came the fact that I was raised to write "Thank You's" for gifts received.  With the way they were unwrapping their gifts the tags got lost in the shuffel. (Thus I had them run and give me the tag and show everybody what the gift was they'd opened and I'd write on the back of the tag what they'd received from the gift giver as they were thanking them in person if it was from one of us in the room.  Later on I'd give them their tags and a package of "Thank You" notes, that I'd placed in each of their Christmas Stockings, with notice that they were to write their "Thank You's " before New Year's Eve and that I would help those that needed help.)  The only way that the gifts could be identified as to who's was who's was for one of "Santa's Helper's" to hand out the gifts and all would take turns opening a gift and doing the tag thing for me and then it was the next ones turn.  When we were still doing this when our oldest came home from college one Christmas she said, "Momma, I've learned that your behavior is called 'compulsive obsessive' (and to think we were paying for her to label me as such after only four months of being away at college - you've heard the saying - a little bit of knowledge can be deadly).  Well, compulsive obsessive or whatever it kept our house from burning down and made things easier to give thanks for gifts received and gave me peace of mind (so be it).  When our children were little, helping them get gifts for each other and their cousin's they drew and their grandparent's was often hard.  Some times they'd make some of their gifts, but oft times not.  In fact one Christmas they all wanted to pull their meager savings together and get a nice gift for their Daddy.  I was very pregnant, due December 29th (so you know just how pregnant I was).  Anyway we all got into the car and went to the mall.  We were standing around the mall directory looking for a store we could go get their Daddy's gift from when a young couple came up to us and said, "Haven't you heard of planned parenthood?"  I was so shocked and hurt that I gathered up the kids and headed back out to the car trying not to cry in my rush, but breaking down when we were all buckled in.  They gave their Daddy an earfull when he arrived home from work that night, and he said to me, "Well Sweetheart, if ever someone says that to you again you just say to them, "Yes, and we're half way thru our plan."  (It did happen to me one more time but I wasn't able to get a word in before the man was out of range and I was in line at the grocery check-out stand anyway.)  
I started "The Allen Mercantile Store".  (Named after Jim's grandfather's store in Canada.)  I had the kids all write down 10 idea's of what they'd like for Christmas and telling them they might not get any but "Santa" could always use a little help.  Then I'd look thru catalogue's and purchase some of the items along with all alike p.j.s so they'd look good for their Christmas morning pictures. I'd wrap up their p.j.'s for them to open the night before Christmas so they could wear them to bed.   I'd lay out six items per child on our king sized bed and put very generous prices on the items.  Then I'd remove the items for the child that was currently shopping and he/she would pick one item out of each child's stack which I'd pinned or taped their name on each item.  They'd pay me for the gifts, I'd give them some bows, tape and their very own tags, pen, wrapping paper and send them out into a private area in the house to wrap up their gifts and put them under the tree.  Then I'd call in the next child, after putting his items out of sight and putting the person who'd just been doing their shopping with me back out onto the bed.  When the last child did his shopping, they were the youngest so didn't care that there wasn't much left to pick from they were just happy to be going thru the process and I helped that last one wrap his/her gifts up for the other's and place under the tree.  This worked for several year's.

 

(More pictures to come when I put them on my computer.)
  

"RUBA-DUB-DUB" Grammy loves her babies in the tub. . . .

 Nothing like my children and "Grand's" at tubby time (cute, cute babies bottoms have always been my weakness)! I love the look of my daughter's and daughters-in-law when they are expecting these precious spirits as well (do you think those feelings are connected?  I wonder!).  I missed out on a few of these events and so I treasure the pictures sent to me in Brasil:

   
     
(More pictures to come when I get them out of my scrapbooks and into my computer iphoto.)

"GRAMMY'S DRIVE-IN MOVIE DATES", picnic's and sleep-overs. . . . .

    I LOVE to hold "Tea Parties", picnics, drive-in movies and sleep-overs for my "Grand's".  The tea party tradition did not start with me.  It started with my hubby's Momma.  "Nonny" and "Poppy's" very best Christmas gifts for our children was the time she went to the DI and got cute hat boxes, covered them with cute stick on shelf paper, strings of pearls, hats, long white gloves, heels and jewelry and tied it all up with beautiful bows.  Then she wrote out cute invitations the week after Christmas and invited each of her grand-daughter's to a "Tea Party" at her home.  They were to come dressed in their dress-up cloths she'd given them.  She answered her door, dressed up as well and ushered them into a table set up with tiny sandwiches with their crusts cut off,  tiny cups with lemonade and saucers to put their individual sandwiches on.  They were so delighted.  Later "Poppy" invited all the grandson's over to enjoy a sleep-over in the tree house he'd built in their back yard for his grandson's Christmas gift that year. 

The Grammy Shirlyn Drive-In Movie Nite.   One summer I was unable to spend the whole summer with my daughter's and their children at Momma's cabin because I was helping in Jim's office for awhile sooo....on one of the weekends I drove up to the cabin with a small portable TV that plugged into the lighter and VHS tapes that I knew my grandchildren enjoyed.  I popped microwave corn at the Circle K along the way, purchased red vines, and juice boxes.  I'd layed down all the seats in my large car, put down my Levi quilts that Momma had made me.  Called my daughter's and daughter-in-laws from my car phone and said don't tell the kids but make sure they eat dinner, get ready for bed and have their pillows and "Nonny Blankets" handy and when I drive up bring them out to my car.  They did and the kids and I drove to the nearby lake parking lot and I parked and got in the back with them and we watched a video together all bunched up in the back of my car eating popcorn, red vines and drinking out of our juice boxes.  Their Momma's enjoyed an evening in the cabin together alone just enjoying whatever.  I made some wonderful memories for me and my "Grand's" and it became a requested do-over for many year's.  

We've camped out in the back yard with our children and they are now doing those fun things with their little ones. . . . and I've held "Play-dates" where my "Grand's" have come over and I've fixed picnics, we've played games,  walked our pets or fed the turtle and sometimes just watched the grass grow together.  It was just fun to be singled out for a day away from all the other's and just be special to each other.


    

Whenever my Momma would get lonely it didn't matter if she lived by us or in Snowflake I'd hop in the car and have a sleep-over with her.  One time I drove her all around Snowflake and had her stop me and I'd get out and take a picture of the place she was giving me some history on. I typed it all out and put the pictures with it and gave it to her in an album for some good memories to look through.  With her permission I also gave a copy to each of my siblings.


WATER SKIING or SNOW SKIING,SNOWBOARDING , SCUBA DIVING & KAYAKING. . .some since early childhood . . .

Since early childhood water (frozen or otherwise) has been a wonderful way to stay close as a family.  Having swimming pools was fun when it happened but early on our first boat was our best investment.  Away from the rest of the world, teaching our kids how to swim, dive, water ski, snow ski, snowboard was a life-changer!  Jim's dad owned a boat as well and he just passed away last year but you wouldn't believe how many people, when expressing their sadness at his passing, told stories of how he'd taught them how to water ski.  Our children are now doing the same things with their families. . . .